Sunday, 10 May 2015

Why I have totally gone off Facebook


..... and have been doing so for some time.  I still go on there to keep up with people with whom I would lose touch if I didn't use it, but that's the only reason.



My first three points are just minor irritations:

In order to get any 'reach' on my author page, I would now have to pay.  I don't, of course.  Thus, my author page posts now get seen by about 150 people instead of over 1000.  Don't Mark Whatsit and all his shareholders make enough money out of advertising, etc, anyway?

I hate that the privacy is negligible.  I hate that 'liking' pages is all just a ruse for your details to be passed to data mining companies.  However, all this has been written about in great detail elsewhere, and I'm a bit bored with it now, so I won't go into it any further.




It's banal.  I know this is such a clichΓ© now, but clichΓ©s are born of truth and it seems that the majority of people who use it all the time really do just post photos of their kids and dinner, or stuff like "Better go to work then lol".

The main reason, though, is that I find it rather limited.  And limiting.  This is what I don't get:  I get friend requests from people all the time, friends of friends who I know by name only, friends of friends who I don't know at all, and writers who didn't start using the site until they self-published so don't realise it's not just another promotional tool.  I share their posts on Twitter, I'm not going to share all those endless book promos with my real life friends, too.


I used to accept most friend requests because I felt rude not doing so, but I decline most of them these days.  Here's why.  It's because I don't understand why they've been sent in the first place.  It seems that most people's posts are either book promotions (because I mix in the online world of writers) or updates on their immediate domestic life, family, etc - stuff that only interests those already close to them.  

Do I really care that they've just eaten Sunday dinner and are putting their feet up?  No, I scarcely know them apart from an occasional auto retweet on Twitter.

Do I feel the need to enquire why they're 'feeling a bit meh...'?  No, not really; I last talked to them in a pub about six years ago.  

Do I care that little Emily loved her new *insert name of child's toy here*?  No, I didn't even know little Emily existed, or indeed who she is. 

If this is the sort of stuff they're going to post (and that's fine, your Facebook account is yours to do with as you wish), why not just keep their page for those close friends and family, in order to share photos, etc?  


If I post an article of general interest on Twitter, it's retweeted, favourited, commented on, etc.  If I post it on Facebook, it's largely ignored.  From that, I deduce that the people who choose Facebook as their 'go to' social networking site are mostly just interested in things close to home.  I think I've got about 250 'friends' on there.  I'd have a job to list more than 100, because I have no communication with the others and cannot remember who they all are, so what's the point of it all?  If we were interested in each other, wouldn't we have maintained more of a friendship in real life?

What used to be discussed over the garden fence, in the school playground, down the pub and outside the post office now appears on Facebook.  And I'm not remotely interested in the gossip of people I don't know - look, I even stopped watching Corrie!

A while back a friend on there made a remark about people who send her friend requests on Facebook but do the 'fly in the eye' thing if they see her in Budgen.  Another wrote a very sad post about all her friends on Facebook who give it all this 'luv ya hunni xox' stuff, but didn't turn up to her mother's funeral, when she needed real support.  
 
The very fact that you're reading this means I'm not talking about you, I hasten to add.  There are some people I've met online over the past 8 years and have remained friends with, even if we don't communicate all the time (Andrea, Mike, etc!).  New online friends, writers whose books I read, readers of my books.  There are those who have become real life friends, too (Phil, Lisa, Carol, Michelle!).  Lovely. There are some old friends I've found again, with whom I have renewed contact (Andy, Johnny, Mick, Richard, Sue, Kate, etc etc etc!).  That's FAB.  But, mostly, my friend requests are from people who think, 'oh yeah, I remember her', or 'oh, isn't that Terry Tyler?' (I use a pretend surname on my personal page).  After the initial 'hi' we never speak again.  They don't share anything that I might want to look at, have no interest in anything I post, so what do they want me on their friends list for - to swell their numbers?  What are we, fourteen years old?


I love Twitter because it's the whole wide world, whereas Facebook is groups of small communities.  I won't even call it a 'network' of small communities, because most people on it only interact with their personal friends.

Recently, a member of my family had a serious operation.  I've been able to keep in touch with all of our relatives and mutual friends in one place, via Facebook, on the subject.  This is GREAT, and made me really glad the site exists.  But that's what it is, mostly, I think: just a family and close friends connection site.  I've had bad experiences in the writer groups (which appear to be just for self-promo and oneupmanship), and any writers I know who've paid to advertise on it have reported rubbish results, which I think is because people mostly just go on it to keep in touch with their families and friends, not to be sold to.


I suppose it's all about finding the social networking site that is right for you - so long live Twitter and all who post a ton of interesting stuff on it, I say! 

For a hilarious look at translating Facebook into real life, please see THIS POST by Lynn Gerrard, one of the most entertaining people I've 'met' on Twitter! 

(Update on Monday May 11 ~ I just 'unfriended' 22 people, most of them writers.  I am sure they won't even notice.)

Here's a totally unrelated cartoon, just because I like it....











60 comments:

  1. I agree completely - I couldn't got a toss who has just had a cup of coffee or planted a rose.

    And then came the earthquake in Nepal, and Facebook set up a page so if you knew that someone was ok you could mark it there - it worked like a wave, so one person could mark of everyone they knew. It was how I found out that my friends are all alive. And then meant I could publicise a little charity that runs a health centre in the mountains and needed funds urgently.

    That is Facebook at its best.

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    1. Ah yes, exactly, that is Facebook at its best, in the same was as I have been able to update friends and family over the past few days. The rest of it, though - forget it!

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  2. Loved this!! Funny and factual......crackin' stuff!....:)

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    1. Not very funny, I had meant it to be funnier but it ended up not being so! Still, I hope the cartoons and the link to your post made up for it!

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  3. I mix information about my magazine stories and progress of my book with the occasional photo of my grandchildren (sorry!) but I am here reading this which I might not have been had it been for Twitter alone as it's so easy to miss things on there. I think they each have their own uses.

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    1. Ah yes, Wendy, but you have not sent me a friend request, you can do whatever you like, ha ha! Joke - if you had I would have accepted gladly, as we communicate about stuff. That's my point - people can post what they like, it's their Facebook page, it's just the endless domestic stuff from what amounts to virtual strangers that I don't get - and I have now just read your comment underneath this one, which tells me that you understand all that anyway..... duuuhh!!! :^D

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  4. Actually what I just said was wrong as I saw this post as I follow your blog... Duh!

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  5. Spot on. Blogging and Twitter are much better ways for readers and writers to keep in touch.

    Even on Twitter I get new followers who DM me with a private message asking me to "like" them on Facebook. They have gazillions of followers, they follow billions of people. They are probably robots. My standard reply used to be: "I don't do Facebook." Now I don't even bother replying most of the time.

    And because I don't do FB, I sometimes think I'm missing out on something. It's just a passing feeling, because I tell myself: don't panic - that "something" that I think I'm missing out on is called noise and clutter.

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    1. Mel, let me shake your hand - I sometimes feel I'm missing out because I only 'do' Facebook once a week to keep up with my friends, and perhaps post the odd thing on my author page (probably not this post, ha ha!!!), but I shall think of this comment, now, whenever I do!

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  6. I agree completely. In fact I've been meaning to have a cull of facebook 'friends' on my personal page and I might get rid of my author/editor one altogether as I hardly ever look at it. It seems like a bit of a bragging site to me - 'look what I've bought, where I'm going etc.' It's great for getting back in touch with old friends though. I much prefer Twitter and if I find someone interesting I usually follow their blog if they have one (which is why I'm here!)

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    1. Yes - people who just use Facebook seem to be more self-interested. It's the 'small town' of social networking! I think it's just Big Brother, though, mainly.

      I used to have culls, but there's always the odd person you used to know 20 years ago who sees your posts but doesn't say much, who might be really offended!!

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  7. I agree with all this Terry, I find Facebook tiresome and that's probably because I set it up all wrong in the first place. Having never been on any social media before I published I set it up in my pen name (as I was writing secretly) so now it is not me it is Georgia Rose who is on there so there is no personal stuff, not that I would post that even if I was on there as me anyway but I just post writing stuff, reviews from my blog and whatnot, as that's pretty much what I'm left with. My use is sporadic and whilst I can be entertained by things others post I am often amazed that people feel they need to share their lives with someone they don't know.

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    1. Yeah, the personal pages are, I think, for personal stuff! I never comment on or share book promo on it, and if people tag me in a book type post (or anything related) to my personal page I untag myself - that page is for my life outside writing, there's enough of that everywhere else. I do understand, the whole social networking thing must be so hard to understand if you've never done it before! I'd suggest setting up an author page, but now you have to pay to get the posts seen you're probably better off keeping it as it is! I think what a lot of writers using it for the first time don't understand (and why should they) is that a Facebook friend add is not like a Twitter follow, because on FB you put personal stuff, photos, that sort of thing, which you don't necessarily want the whole world to see. Because I used it for years before self pubbing, I know how much people hate being 'sold to' on it, which is why I only post anything about my books when I have a new one out. I do have a fair few regular readers on there, but they've all 'liked' my author page anyway, so they can see those posts if they want to. I am in one good reader group on it, but it's private because they don't want author promo on there (I never post about my own books on it!). I know people go on about the groups being so good, but I've only ever found them to be... well, as I said above! This comment's got too long, now....!!!

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  8. Hi Terry. Yes, FB isn't my favourite either. I prefer connecting to people via my blog, as they seem to "chat" more. Also Twitter can be good sometimes too., as you say it's finding the one that works for you. Interesting post enjoyed reading it.

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    1. Thank you! I think Twitter is terrific; there's a whole world out there that the facebook users don't ever explore. But yes, it depends which one's right for you, it's a very individual thing.

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  9. I so agree TT. I really actually hate FB in many respects and for many reasons (you know some of them). However, I do follow quite a number of photography 'friends' on FB and that is much easier there than on Twitter. I also like posting photos of places we've been myself, and as you say, it is the only way to keep up with certain people I'd otherwise lose touch with. That said, I mostly scroll down my feed and think 'is that all there is?'

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    1. Exactly - you're sharing your photos with your friends. That's what it's for, isn't it? As for 'is that all there is?', I think that every time I go on there. Then I 'like' a few photos, say hi to the odd friend, and go back to Twitter! Having said that, I must look on your page at your photos next time I go on there!

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  10. I have to admit that I bet my children will be shaking their heads at my very bare funeral and saying 'but she had so many friends on Facebook and Twitter'!
    I agree, sometimes friendships can be a bit superficial on Facebook not to mention makign friendships with people you hardly know but I love keeping in contact with people that way.
    Re the business page, I find I get good reach if my content suits the genre of my book and what people expect ie - it has to be related to farming and be humourous to do well. I have almost 1000 fans and get an average reach of about 500 I'd say - some up to 1000 or more if people share, others about 300.

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    1. Ha ha, I love the funeral bit, Lorna!

      Yes, I do understand what you're saying re the business page; I suppose I don't use it enough. I used to be quite active on author pages, but I'm not so much now. I've got about 960 'likes' I think, but I don't do that 'likes' trading thing because I think it's fairly pointless - yeah, I guess I don't put enough into it!!

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    2. Oh, gosh, I don't do the trading thing either - but I do like other author pages whenever I come across them.
      I do agree that the algorithm is a pain whereas Twitter works in real time so if your followers are online, they will see your tweets but it's a case of working out how to 'work it' as best as you can.
      I prefer to have fewer fans who engage than huge numbers who don't see my updates nor engage.

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    3. Yes, though huge numbers are no less likely to see your updates than large numbers. It depends how many people they follow. I do take your point, though. :)

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  11. Two things that bug me about Facebook:

    (1) I follow several of my favourite authors. I hadn't seen anything from one particular author for ages so I checked her page - and found out she'd been posting regularly, practically every day, yet I hadn't seen a single post. Kind of making the whole follow on Facebook thing a bit pointless

    (2) Receiving 'Like My Page' requests the moment I've accepted someone as a friend, usually from self-published authors. Hint: this is the quickest way to get yourself unfriended!

    (I rather like the photos of cake though ;-) )

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    1. Louise! Yes - Facebook has changed its algorithms, apparently, so you only see certain people's posts most of the time, and to be frank I can't work out (or can't be bothered to find out) why this is. I had a look at my friends list after I'd written this post and discovered some people I haven't heard anything from for over 2 years!

      With the 'like my page' thing, I don't accept authors as friends, unless I communicate with them a lot anyway, and they genuinely ARE friends. I've been on Facebook since about 2008 and have loads of stuff on there; I don't want every Tom, Dick and Harry being able to see all my photographs, old pre-self pub posts, etc, and I doubt very much that they would want to anyway - which brings me back to my original point! As for the cake, if only I could just stick with photographs...!! Thanks for commenting x

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  12. You said it: "If I post an article of general interest on Twitter, it's retweeted, favourited, commented on, etc. If I post it on Facebook, it's largely ignored."

    So true. For instance, I just checked the stats for all four of ,y Blogs, and it is so obvious that Twitter is much more valuable than Facebook (well, in three of the four anyway)

    Here goes without using any of the blog titles or links to them:

    1st Blog—Twitter wins 5.5 to 1
    For all time, Twitter referred 4,280 to this Blog
    Facebook only referred 774

    2nd Blog—Twitter wins 2.2 to 1
    Twitter 2,557
    Facebook 1,142

    3rd Blog (this Blog is about China)
    Search Engines 314,186
    Facebook 1,744
    Twitter 1,295 (Okay, can't win them all. Maybe people on Twitter aren't all that interested in China, but most of the traffic to this blog comes through search engines anyway, and Twitter is closer to Facebook than Facebook is to Twitter on my other three blogs)

    4th Blog—Twitter wins 11.3 to 1
    Twitter 556
    Facebook 49

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  13. Ah yes, Lloyd - that proves my point, doesn't it? The people whose social networking site of choice is Twitter are, I think, those who are interested in the world as a whole, not just that which has direct effect on their own lives. Thanks for providing those stats :)

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  14. It is more personal Terry. In the early days of Facebook I liked business pages, author pages and publishers. I don't actually see those pages at all. I did create 'interest' groups but don't often look there.

    When I have time I love to check out the links that are posted on Twitter (articles) whether they are about writing or something like archaeology (for instance). It is much more interesting :)

    I did ask an author once about the outcome of her sponsored post. It didn't have much impact, barely a ripple.

    As you say it's great to stay in touch with family,especially when they're scattered all over the world but as a promotional tool? I haven't seen any evidence.

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    1. It sounds as though your experience with it is exactly the same as mine, Shaz! Yes, and I've heard people say that their 'sponsored posts' haven't even covered the cost...!

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  15. I agree. I am so frustrated with FB I could scream! I post on my author page daily, but FB only allows a handful of followers to see it. I'm *not* going to pay them to increase my visibility. The recent tightening of the FB screws has me ready to just deactivate my author page. However, there are a few people I interact with there and nowhere else, so I keep slogging along. *sigh*

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    1. Hi Isabella - yes, that's the thing, isn't it? I'd lose touch with some people completely if it wasn;t for FB, and it's useful in the past for getting in touch with lots of people at once, too. I feel that my author page might as well be deactivated, too. It's all greed, isn't it?

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  16. I feel the same way about Facebook - I refuse to spam friends and family with ads from other writers. I end up having to go through hundreds of posts just to find the ones I really care about. It's very frustrating. Love the cartoons! Thanks!

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    1. Yes, Jan - it's why I don't add writers! Most of them only started using social networking sites when they started self-publishing so don't understand that Facebook doesn't work like Twitter. Glad you liked cartoons! :)

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  17. I use Facebook slightly differrently maybe, in that it's a chance for a lot of people we've lost touch with as a family to see pics of Hannah, the baby and share some family news. It's quicker than an email, I can reach more of them and it's more immediate. I also use it a lot for local politics...I'm on several parent and Indie groups and post on there. And I use my publisher's readers group. Other than that, yeah, it is liking people's dinners and pets, but hey...

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    1. Precisely - you use it as I do - it's what I do with my family and friends I don't live near, too. And it's also why I don't add a load of people I hardly know, because a) it's none of their business and b) I doubt that they'd be interested anyway. I am also on a couple of good groups too, for things unrelated to book stuff. And that's kind of it! I do find, though, that when I post an item of general interest it MOSTLY just gets looked at by the people who also use Twitter, ie, the ones who are interested in things outside their own family, too!

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  18. Amen! I didn't even invite people I know to join me on Twitter because I already know what they're doing via FB. I wanted to find out what the rest of the world was doing. Some things that people post are appalling - instant unfriend for way too much information, hateful comments, racist comments, and hateful- racist- political comments.
    Twitter forever! Most people act like adults there.

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    1. A round of applause for your first sentence, Anita! x

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  19. I use FB fir two reasons/ things. On my profile page I share 'funnies', Jokes. light-hearted stuff - bit of good news. On my author page I share other author's books, news. Then every now and then , on my profile page , send an invite to look at what's available on my author page. Also use it to send DMs to people I need a quick reply from, who I knowe will be on FB sooner rather than later.. Do get a bit fed up with news of operations/ illnesses etc. But then I think these people might know others in 'real life' so just let it flow over my head.My pet hate though are those who say' Checking who'd keeping in touch with me - post one word after this message. Know what my one word would be!!

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    1. Oh, God, I can't stand all those stupid chain things! Posted by people who've got too much time on their hands. Feel like saying, if you ever showed any interest in anything I post, or posted anything interesting, I WOULD keep in touch! Basically, FB is 'me', not 'writer me', because 70% of the people I am friends with on it aren't that interested in the latter, so I keep that for my author page.

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  20. It seems we all have the same experience with FB. The algorithms really changed and - on my opinion - ruined the site. I can't understand why people on FB think the world should be interested in their personal life or in some (often silly) funny pic, but obviously on FB it is so. I don't know about you but it seems to me that on G+ it's quite the same thing. I feel sometimes absurdly when I see no interest on some relatively useful and interesting article while some cute kitty (I love animals too) gets tons of endearing sighs and likes. Maybe it's a question of a visual-minded predisposition, who knows...

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    1. I've never used G+ so can't comment, Philip. I don't mind people posting personal stuff, as I said, it's their account, I just don't know why they would want to add people they hardly know if that's what they're going to post! Yes, exactly. I post an article about over population, 6 people like and comment. I post a picture of my niece, 45 people like and comment. Which proves my point, I think!!

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  21. I am the family member who had the operation, and if anyone would like to comment on my FB page along the lines of 'how you doin hun xoxoxo'; well, I suppose I can't stop them!

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  22. Just goes to show Terry how an article can highlight the evolution that FB needs to go through if it wishes to be a serious networking tool. I believe that right now FB is just scratching a very a large surface and the network noise being generated is just that 'A Noise' nevertheless it is akin to early radio, hard to hear and equally hard to understand. The filters will no doubt emerge and improve the service away from the vapid and platitudinous to a more productive outlet. At least I for one personally hope it will. In the meantime may your oxo's make great gravy.

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    1. Hi! I think that's the point, RL - Facebook doesn't need to be a serious networking too, it's a family and friends site. It's for the masses to connect with each other without leaving the comfort of their armchairs! What used to be discussed over the garden fence is now done so on Facebook - actually, I think I'll use that in the article!!!

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  23. Yep. Agree with this post wholeheartedly. I try using Facebook to connect with readers, but doesn't really work. Still trying to embrace Twitter. Not sure what that's doing for me either. This is hard. Love your posts though. Thanks!

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    1. I think that's the whole point, Kim - FB is for the readers you already have, it's not the site where people look to find new things, but a site for family and friends. If you don't know how to use Twitter effectively, I'd suggest getting Twitter for Writers by @RayneHall, it's so helpful to the new user!!!

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  24. Hi Terry - I've never got into FB - no kids and no reason ie business reason to do so .. and similarly Twitter ... thanks for the note re Twitter for Writers ... I've noted!

    I shall have to do a bit of both sometime ... but I'm forearmed is forewarned!! Cheers Hilary

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    1. Ah, Twitter is a whole different ball game! I have to make myself log off every day - there's so much good stuff on there! :)

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  25. I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. It was where we all moved to when MeSpace went odd the rails and was pretty good back then in its simplicity. Now it's a nightmare. There is no privacy like there was with MeSpace and their 'updates' just serve to annoy when what is already there doesn't work!

    I do like it because it allows me to be in touch with friends all over the world at the same time. A bit like being in a huge room yet being able to chat to everyone at the same time. I hate it because people I don't know are posting the most horrendous lies about me.

    I would like to give it up sometimes because of all the hassle but then it is a useful tool for all my 'doggy' stuff (fundraising/rescue etc.)

    I have my Twitter linked to my Facebook but don't really use it as much. I would very much like to find an alternative but getting other friends to use another platform is difficult as they are used to Facebook now. I have accounts on Google+ and Ello as well but very few contacts on either.

    I've said for some time there should be a Facebook+ for those of us who like the English language and know how to use it as it's often the spelling and grammar that makes me want to punch people

    That said, I love Lynn Gerrard's posts on both Facebook and Twitter

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    1. Thanks so much for that long and interesting reply, A!I used to have my author page linked to twitter, but stopped it - I hate those linked posts now. I'd never even heard of Ello, and you're right, the world and his mother, wife, sister and old friend from school use Facebook, they'll never change!

      The only reason I keep it on is to keep up with old friends and family. Yes, it's of mild use for my author self (a few of my readers use it rather than Twitter) but apart from that, I have no interest in endless pictures of the children of people I only added because we used to play Scabble on their together, or because they vaguely remember me from living in Cromer!!! They don't show any interest in what I do - why should I in theirs? I realised this, one day after I'd made yet another '"sweet!" comment on the latest kid photo!

      Plenty of grumbling gargoyle on Twitter - I love her too! You know her poetry came out as an ebook yesterday?

      As for the lies about you, yes, it must be horrible. I think the best thing you could do is do one, succinct, well thought out post about it, keep replying to comments so it goes to the top of the feed and everyone sees it all the time, and then just ignore it. Don't keep posting about them. Don't let them win!!!!

      YESSSSS re the Facebook+!!!!

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    2. There was something on This Morning last week about people addicted to Facebook. I only caught the tail end of it as I got to my daughter's (she leaves the TV on for the dogs - I don't actually watch it!) and someone had messaged in that all social media should be banned! The irony!

      I don't think it should be banned, it's like saying technology shouldn't move forward and it is easy to get drawn into petty squabbles because people won't even try and see things from another point of view, but I'm trying to be selective now.

      Yes, I think your idea re: one comment and keep bumping it is a grand idea!

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    3. Ha ha - and yes of course, that's ludicrous, it's endlessly useful for so many things. I used to argue with people on the internet, too, but I don't anymore. I just say my piece, then block them so that they can't say anything back (how frustrating to the internet arguer that must be!), but, more to the point, to stop MYSELF from carrying it on!! Mostly, people don't want to see another point of view, i don't think; they just want to win the argument. In life, too, alas!!!

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  26. FB does keep me in touch with people who aren't necessarily on Twitter and allows for longer messages. But a real problem with FB is bullying. You post about a problem that concerns you and then people you thought were reasonable dismiss it as trivial or not as bad as something else. I just blogged about it in re/the Paris bombings: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lev-raphael/paris-beirut-and-grief-sh_b_8572752.html

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    1. I don't get involved enough in facebook to get bullied, Lev. Alas, the problem is with any article that as soon as you post it in a public, open site, it is there to be commented on. I will read your article shortly! Thanks for commenting :)

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  27. Unable to sleep tonight for various reasons... so reading this and laughing/agreeing/commiserating/ working out what social media i really do want to follow ...

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    1. Thanks, Judith, glad to have amused you! I think the trouble is that writers are told 'must do social media', but don't realise that each site is completely different. Me, I don't care much about people's kids and new patios, or what they had for dinner, and like to keep my own life fairly private, so Facebook doesn't really work for me!

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  28. I've been debating lately about whether I should create an author presence on Facebook. Thanks to you, Terry, and all of these replies, I don't think I'll waste my time.

    Have a happy new year. :)

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    1. Oh yeah, total waste of time now, Dylan, unless you pay to boost the posts. I hardly ever use mine; I just get a few people 'liking' and sharing them, who I see on Twitter anyway. Used to be worth it a few years ago, but pointless now.

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  29. Wow - Spot on Terry! I've always found Facebook to be such a tiresome 'Me-Me-Me' kind of app too! - It's like a social mine-field where you ignore things at your peril (Fail to wish Billy-Bob a timely happy birthday or like Kelly-Ann's pic of little Johny's latest school photo and you run the risk of offending all and sundry), whereas at least with Twitter it's more of a spur of the moment, blink and you miss it kind of thing...YES I want to keep in touch with the people that matter to me, but NO I can't keep up with them for every second of the day!...Maybe it's an age thing : )

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    1. That's how I feel about it too, exactly, Keith. I mean, in real life you don't know everything that goes on with everyone, all the time, and neither does it interest you, particularly. It's quite normal to be out of touch with people for a while; I'm sure a lot of people just nip down the news feed going 'like, like, like' to all their friends posts, just to make it look as if they've tuned in...

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  30. Lynn's post has disappeared!! Is she in hiding I wonder? And yes, you're right about FB in a lot of ways - I tend to use my profile page to share jokes?cartoons etc that have made me splutter in my coffee/ snort it down my nose. But I do like my author page where I share other writers news/ books and reviews.Seems to get shared as well?jx

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    1. Shame re Lynn's post, it was really good! As for my author page, I don't use it from one month to the next. I forget it's there! But then I only go on FB once or twice a week anyway, so I don't share anyone else's posts - thus, I can't moan if mine don't get shared!!!

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